What
is the book? Preparing To Be a Help Meet
by Debbie Pearl.
Now,
before any of you get any wild ideas about my “relationship status”: I was talked
into reading this book. My mother told me about it when it first got
published, making a comment that it would probably be good for me to read. Then
my friend in Ohio started reading the book and suggested it to me. Of course I was like “Well… it wouldn't really serve me
a purpose, especially since I am going to be an old maid. I mean, why would I want
to read something on marriage when I am sure I am not going to get
married?”
Haha...Well,
lo and behold, my friend/neighbor/adopted older sister, bought the book and
gave it to me for Christmas/Hanukkah (thanks Jen!). That action told me that God was wanting me to read the book, but still, I was not
expecting much. I mean, I basically know what makes a good wife: meekness in attitude and
speech, respect for the hubby, cooking, cleaning, running a house, being
available and flexible for the hubby, etc. etc… these qualities make a good wife.
Anyway,
I started reading the book with the mindset that it was only about how to
prepare yourself to be a good wife, the qualities needed, the pros and cons
that a wise man will look for in a potential mate, and the things you should consider
doing while you wait for “prince charming” to come along.
The
first thing that challenged me was Mrs. Pearl talking about prayer.
Of
course I pray, and any smart person prays for their future soul mate: prays
that they grow closer to the Lord and let Him mold them, that they resist temptation,
that the Lord keeps them safe, that they build strong character qualities, that
they have their priorities in check, etc. etc… but what really hit me was why
we should pray.
I
am really ashamed that I didn't see it this way before, but the reason we pray
is not only because we want to have a conversation with God, but because we are
waging a war. When we make a request of God, it releases the warriors of heaven
to do battle against the angels of darkness. When we pray, we initiate a
battle, and we direct its outcome with our prayers.
If
we pray amiss, if we pray for our material desires, then we cause great damage
to the waging battle. If we pray for a while and then give up, then we
automatically loose the battle. If we continue to pray for God’s will, and we
are persistent and tireless in our prayer, then the battle will be fought and
won.
The
example that Debbie Pearl used was Daniel chapter 10. Daniel prayed for almost
a month that God would give him understanding concerning a vision that God had
given him. Finally an angel shows up and explains that he came with the
understanding as soon as Daniel started praying, but that the devil’s forces
attempted to stop him from arriving, and finally the angel Michael came to his
aid and was battling the demons so he could deliver the message of
understanding to Daniel.
All
of that was because of Daniel’s prayer.
It
made me see how much I really don’t pray, how I don’t really intercede as much
as I thought, and how I really don’t request much of God, therefore not
allowing the opportunity for battle. It truly convicted me.
Gee….I
could really do a whole post on prayer. Perhaps I will someday!
Anyway,
another thing that caught my attention and has me questioning myself and my
life is a note that Debbie Pearl put in the book under someone’s testimonial:
The nature of someone’s speech tells a lot about them and where their life is headed. There are distinct differences in the speech of a person who directs their life (proactive/wise) and someone who lets their life direct them (reactive/foolish). The reactive individual talks of wishes and hopes whereas a proactive individual talks of plans with definitive action.
This
struck me and made me ask myself “Am I a proactive person? I have plans, but so
often they just seem to turn into empty wishes. I use the word HOPE a lot when referring
to things I want done. Does that mean I am a reactive person? If I were to die
tomorrow, would I have anything to show for my life? Am I getting anything
productive done in my life? Am I moving forward and achieving goals? Not my
goals, but God’s goals?”
I
have actually found myself stressing and worrying about this for the past
several days. Am I a proactive person? Or am I a reactive little twit?
I
hate being idle, but are my random activities achieving ANYTHING?
I
don’t feel like I am achieving anything.
But
then I start worrying that I am over reacting. After all, I have am successfully
building strong relationships with my siblings, learning to respect my dad and
brothers, I have successfully taught children character (and by ‘successfully’
I mean that I have SEEN the fruit produced from these children with my own
eyes)…. But then I think that of all the things I could have done/should have
done, and have failed to do. There are too many to list.
So,
am I a proactive or reactive person? I am currently uncertain of the answer,
but I am determined to find the answer to the question…. And if I am a reactive
person, I intend to correct that.
I still have not
finished Preparing To Be A Help Meet. I am only half way through chapter 2! But
I am purposely taking it slow and making notes. I think I will have a few more
blog posts concerning the things I am learning from Debbie Pearl and the other
women (and men) in the book before I am finished with it!
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