Guys should really do this too, but I made this for young ladies because I am one.
FYI, I have never dated in my life, and I haven't missed anything. I am waiting for the right young man to come along, and any young man that has ever considered taking me out, or that has caught my eye, I put him through the ringer. I don't want to date a guy that I wouldn't want to marry, and I don't want to marry just any guy: he has to be THE guy. Yes, he will be imperfect, but I can set standards for him and I will not lower them just for the first guy to come along. He MUST meet those standards. God can help him to meet them. Setting standards allows God to do AMAZING things! To prove His strength! Men respect me for this. They will respect any woman who does this, because he will know that she will stand her ground no matter what, and that she doesn't have high expectations, but high standards.
(If he doesn’t pass question #1 then forget it. If you’re not sure of question #1 then engage into a real heart-to-heart conversation with your family and don’t be afraid to find out the truth. What can it hurt? It can do nothing but profit you. How they see him will be how you see him eventually. How he treats his family will be how he will eventually treat you.)
I. Does your family approve of him?
a. How does each family member view him?
II. Relationships
a. How does his family treat him & each other?
b. Father (Does he have a good relationship with his dad and willingly stay under his authority?)
c. Mother (How does he treat her? Does he give her special attention? Is he caring, tenderhearted, considerate, affirming, and affectionate? Does he respect her preferences?)
d. How does he treat his Brothers and Sisters? Does he spend special time with them and treat them special?
e. How does he view and treat his elders?
f. Do his friends have respect and esteem for him?
III. Emotional Maturity
a. Is he a good listener?
b. What is his vision? What are his goals?
c. What sort of bad habits does he have?
d. How does he respond to problems? Does he get angry or is he selfish?
IV. Spiritual Maturity
a. How different are his family’s convictions from your family’s?
b. Does he spend time in the Word daily and have an active prayer life?
c. Does he see prayers being answered and share his faith with others?
d. Is he going to be a good spiritual leader? (Is he a leader now?)
V. Financial Responsibility / Stewardship Maturity
a. How does he feel about working (for himself, for his family, for others)?
b. Does he know the basic home and auto maintenance?
c. Is he capable NOW of supporting a family?
d. Does he own his own home? Does he save money?
e. How does he use his money? Is he possessive?
f. Does he tithe? Is he generous?
g. Does he take good care of his things?
h. What are the quality of his possessions?
i. Is he in debt? (What are his views of debt?)
Is he willing to do a Basic and Advanced Seminar, and a Journey to the Heart retreat? (or a discipleship class) Is his family willing to support & encourage him in going? Does he meet your qualifications? Is he willing to wait six months or more for an answer?
Young Ladies Self- evaluation:
VI. Relationships
a. Father (Can you respect your dad even when he’s not acting respectable? Do you stay under his authority? Do you know & respect his preferences?)
b. Mother (Can you love your mom even when she’s acting unlovable? Do you obey her from your heart?)
c. Siblings (Do you treat them with respect and give them special attention?)
d. Do you treat all elders with respect?
e. Do you value your family’s opinion over your friend’s?
f. Do you feel ready to commit to following a man through sickness & trail?
VII. Emotional Maturity
a. What are your plans for the future?
b. What are your goals, dreams, secret wishes?
c. Do you feel fulfilled in life or are there still things you would like to do?
d. What sort of bad habits do you have?
e. Do you have trouble keeping your temper?
VIII. Spiritual Maturity
a. Do you spend time in the Word daily and have an active prayer life?
b. Do you see your prayers being answered & share your faith with others?
c. What lies of the devil do you believe?
d. Are you content with how God made you?
e. Are there some ‘secret sins’ in your life that you have not dealt with?
f. Do you have a learner’s spirit or do you get frustrated when someone tries to instruct or correct you?
g. Are you willing to go on a retreat, away from friends, to grow closer to God and learn how to better serve your family?
IX. Homemaking Skills
a. Are you willing to and happy to serve your family?
b. How do you feel about cleaning (for yourself, for your family, for others)?
c. Can you cook, bake, plan a menu, make a grocery list & shop frugally?
d. What does your bedroom look like? How often do you clean it?
e. Do you see each and every child as a gift from God to be cherished and trained in the nurture and admonition of the LORD?
X. Financial Responsibility / Stewardship Maturity
a. Are you ‘stingy’ with your money? Do you tend to keep things for yourself and keep your special objects away from others?
b. Do you tend to find yourself wishing for things that you do not have or cannot afford? Do you often spend more money than necessary?
c. What does your closet and apparel look like?
d. Do you tithe? (Give God 10%) Do you save?
XI. Health
a. Do you eat the in a way you know promotes your health?
b. Do you tend to indulge in things you know are not good for you?
c. Do you feel ready to for pregnancy and childbirth?
FYI, I have never dated in my life, and I haven't missed anything. I am waiting for the right young man to come along, and any young man that has ever considered taking me out, or that has caught my eye, I put him through the ringer. I don't want to date a guy that I wouldn't want to marry, and I don't want to marry just any guy: he has to be THE guy. Yes, he will be imperfect, but I can set standards for him and I will not lower them just for the first guy to come along. He MUST meet those standards. God can help him to meet them. Setting standards allows God to do AMAZING things! To prove His strength! Men respect me for this. They will respect any woman who does this, because he will know that she will stand her ground no matter what, and that she doesn't have high expectations, but high standards.
(If he doesn’t pass question #1 then forget it. If you’re not sure of question #1 then engage into a real heart-to-heart conversation with your family and don’t be afraid to find out the truth. What can it hurt? It can do nothing but profit you. How they see him will be how you see him eventually. How he treats his family will be how he will eventually treat you.)
I. Does your family approve of him?
a. How does each family member view him?
II. Relationships
a. How does his family treat him & each other?
b. Father (Does he have a good relationship with his dad and willingly stay under his authority?)
c. Mother (How does he treat her? Does he give her special attention? Is he caring, tenderhearted, considerate, affirming, and affectionate? Does he respect her preferences?)
d. How does he treat his Brothers and Sisters? Does he spend special time with them and treat them special?
e. How does he view and treat his elders?
f. Do his friends have respect and esteem for him?
III. Emotional Maturity
a. Is he a good listener?
b. What is his vision? What are his goals?
c. What sort of bad habits does he have?
d. How does he respond to problems? Does he get angry or is he selfish?
IV. Spiritual Maturity
a. How different are his family’s convictions from your family’s?
b. Does he spend time in the Word daily and have an active prayer life?
c. Does he see prayers being answered and share his faith with others?
d. Is he going to be a good spiritual leader? (Is he a leader now?)
V. Financial Responsibility / Stewardship Maturity
a. How does he feel about working (for himself, for his family, for others)?
b. Does he know the basic home and auto maintenance?
c. Is he capable NOW of supporting a family?
d. Does he own his own home? Does he save money?
e. How does he use his money? Is he possessive?
f. Does he tithe? Is he generous?
g. Does he take good care of his things?
h. What are the quality of his possessions?
i. Is he in debt? (What are his views of debt?)
Is he willing to do a Basic and Advanced Seminar, and a Journey to the Heart retreat? (or a discipleship class) Is his family willing to support & encourage him in going? Does he meet your qualifications? Is he willing to wait six months or more for an answer?
Young Ladies Self- evaluation:
VI. Relationships
a. Father (Can you respect your dad even when he’s not acting respectable? Do you stay under his authority? Do you know & respect his preferences?)
b. Mother (Can you love your mom even when she’s acting unlovable? Do you obey her from your heart?)
c. Siblings (Do you treat them with respect and give them special attention?)
d. Do you treat all elders with respect?
e. Do you value your family’s opinion over your friend’s?
f. Do you feel ready to commit to following a man through sickness & trail?
VII. Emotional Maturity
a. What are your plans for the future?
b. What are your goals, dreams, secret wishes?
c. Do you feel fulfilled in life or are there still things you would like to do?
d. What sort of bad habits do you have?
e. Do you have trouble keeping your temper?
VIII. Spiritual Maturity
a. Do you spend time in the Word daily and have an active prayer life?
b. Do you see your prayers being answered & share your faith with others?
c. What lies of the devil do you believe?
d. Are you content with how God made you?
e. Are there some ‘secret sins’ in your life that you have not dealt with?
f. Do you have a learner’s spirit or do you get frustrated when someone tries to instruct or correct you?
g. Are you willing to go on a retreat, away from friends, to grow closer to God and learn how to better serve your family?
IX. Homemaking Skills
a. Are you willing to and happy to serve your family?
b. How do you feel about cleaning (for yourself, for your family, for others)?
c. Can you cook, bake, plan a menu, make a grocery list & shop frugally?
d. What does your bedroom look like? How often do you clean it?
e. Do you see each and every child as a gift from God to be cherished and trained in the nurture and admonition of the LORD?
X. Financial Responsibility / Stewardship Maturity
a. Are you ‘stingy’ with your money? Do you tend to keep things for yourself and keep your special objects away from others?
b. Do you tend to find yourself wishing for things that you do not have or cannot afford? Do you often spend more money than necessary?
c. What does your closet and apparel look like?
d. Do you tithe? (Give God 10%) Do you save?
XI. Health
a. Do you eat the in a way you know promotes your health?
b. Do you tend to indulge in things you know are not good for you?
c. Do you feel ready to for pregnancy and childbirth?
(The above image is NOT created my me, I am just using it)
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